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One word. Five minutes to write about it. This is the idea behind Five Minute Friday and this is today's free-writing post.
no one is to blame
take the blame
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We sure like to find someone or something to blame for our problems, don't we? If we can blame our circumstances or our upbringing or 'the other guy' we can shift the blame for our faults or misfortunes somewhere else. This seemed almost trendy over the past few years.
The problem is, even if it ISN'T truly my fault that something bad happened, how I respond to the situation is completely up to me. And casting about for someone to blame isn't going to help anything.
Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself. ~Joseph Campbell
I thought about the difference between taking blame and taking responsibility, and I believe taking responsibility is the more solutions-oriented response. If I blame someone or something other than myself, it's sometimes an excuse. If I accept the blame, it leads to me feeling bad or guilty about whatever it was but it might just end there.
But if I accept responsibility, that implies that I'm going to do something constructive about it. I'll look for a way to resolve a problem, or change my response, or learn something valuable.
Blame is about guilt and shame. I think it's always a burden. We want to be blameless before God, and the only way to do that is to accept responsibility for our own sin and then accept God's forgiveness for it so that he can wipe away the guilt.
And so, dear friends, while you are waiting for these things to happen, make every effort to be found living peaceful lives that are pure and blameless in his sight.
~II Peter 3:14~
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Very true and well written!
ReplyDeletethank you - so glad you stopped by and commented!
DeleteI like your perspective of accepting responsibility for instead of blaming yourself for. I had never thought of it that way.
ReplyDeleteThank you - I hope it was a helpful thought. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment.
DeleteKym, so very true. Only as I have taken responsibility and blame rightly have I been able to move forward and experience growth. And that quote by Theodore Roosevelt is so good! Made me smile too :)
ReplyDeleteI thought it was a good fun quote with a point! I have found that taking responsibility is the only real way to get past harmful blame. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
DeleteSo true. We don't see many people these days taking responsibility for their actions or words. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteWe can probably all do better at taking responsibility. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
DeleteSo much truth here! Great advice.
ReplyDeletethanks so much for taking the time to read and comment
DeleteI think this was very thoughtful. I have never really thought about the difference between taking the responsibility vs taking the blame. In fact, now that I think about it, I don't believe I've ever used the term, taking the blame. But, I'm pretty sure I've practiced it! Thanks for making me think once again, Kym.
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I'm not sure I've thought about that difference before writing this! Sometimes the prompts lead to some very thoughtful pondering. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!
DeleteYou know your right about shifting blame to responsibility. Responding with an action oriented intent. Great insights here Kym.
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It's a lesson I am still learning! Thanks for stopping by and commnenting!
DeleteGreat points, Kym. Love Roosevelt's quote too!
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