10 on the 10th - Love Stories

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On the 10th of each month, Marsha In the Middle asks ten questions for us to answer in as much or little detail as we wish. This month the questions were all related to weddings. I'm here on the 11th instead of the 10th because we've had family here visiting this weekend and yesterday was a busy day!

What is the most amazing thing you remember about your wedding?

I left this question until the end to answer, because I didn't immediately have one specific thing that stood out. So I think the most amazing thing was that it's really all good memories from our day! Not everything went exactly according to plan, and there were a few little upsets, but I don't remember feeling stressed or overwhelmed by any of those glitches. In fact, the little mistakes or worries were quickly resolved and provided things to laugh about almost immediately. 

Tell us about your wedding dress.

My dress was made by my mom, so I guess I can say it was custom made! It was white satin with lace, in an off-shoulder design and had a train. 

Did you include all four things (something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue) at your wedding? Care to tell us more?

I know I did, but I had trouble remembering what the something old was. Finally figured it out - I carried one of my grandmother's fancy lace handkerchiefs in my bouquet. My dress was obviously new. I borrowed a bracelet from my aunt, and there was a small light blue ribbon sewn into my gown.

Where was your wedding held?

The ceremony and the luncheon reception were both held at the church we attended. I'd toyed with the idea of having the wedding―or even just the photos―at a garden, but reserving it was an expense I wasn't comfortable with, and of course there was the risk of what would happen if the weather wasn't cooperative. The day was very hot so I'm glad we were inside where there was air conditioning!

What is the worst thing you've ever seen at a wedding?

I can't think of anything truly awful that has stuck in my memory, although I know I've been at weddings where someone said or did something that was not at all cool. One thing that I remember was really weird and uncomfortable was not actually at the wedding, but a bridal shower. The bride's father and I think also a brother stayed for the entire shower and took pictures. I thought it was very odd and strange that they were there at all, at an otherwise entirely female gathering, never mind taking photos when the bride-to-be was opening up gifts of lingerie and such. 

And while "bridezilla" behavior can be really unpleasant, I don't believe that happens all that often. Among the people I know, sometimes brides can get stressed and create some drama over one thing they want or isn't going well, but it's more an isolated incident than an ongoing thing. What I think is much worse is when family members ride roughshod over what the bride and groom want. Unfortunately I've attended weddings or been party to some wedding plans where a parent, step-parent, sibling, or even a member of the bridal party has acted selfishly or rudely and completely disregarded what the bride or groom wanted or felt about it.

Do you think less of a bride that doesn't wear white?

Not at all. The other "not quite white" colors like cream or champagne or even silver are beautiful. I think it's still quite unusual for a bride to choose another color completely, so I think I might be surprised by a very non-traditional choice. Depending on the bride and how well I know her, I suppose. I admit I'd be taken aback if a bride chose black or red―I might have some questions about why that seemed like a good idea! I think the white gown is more indicative of making sure the bride is in the spotlight and a nod to tradition, than being symbolic of purity in the same way it used to be generations ago. 

If you got married tomorrow or sometime soon, what would be in your bouquet?

Interesting question . . . I had roses and lily of the valley in my bouquet, and I think I'd still like that. If I was choosing today, daisies would probably be included as well. I also really like gardenias. For a spring wedding, I'd have tulips, daisies, and lily of the valley. 

  

Have you ever attended a celebrity's wedding?

No, I haven't. I watched a couple of royal weddings on TV and that's about the closest!

What wedding tradition means the most to you?

Maybe everything about the bride's walk down the aisle. That's a very romantic moment, as the groom sees her in her wedding gown for the first time, and as they sort of focus on each other as she's on her way to meet him. I love the tradition of the father (or another family member) "giving the bride away" to the groom, and the idea that it conveys of the family giving their blessing to the relationship.

Describe your perfect wedding.

Thinking back, we've often wished we could have done something different at our wedding―like having it outdoors, or decorating the church more elaborately, having different music, getting more photos . . . But I guess it was the perfect wedding for us at the time. We celebrated and had a wonderful time with our family and friends, and we stayed within our budget. The perfect wedding isn't necessarily the one with the best photos, the biggest wedding party, the most expensive dress, or the most exotic or beautiful wedding venue. It's one where the bride and groom are able to make memories and enjoy themselves as they celebrate their commitment.

Based on my photos, can you guess when we got married? The big hair is kind of a giveaway that it was in the 80s, am I right?

This post will be linked at Marsha In the Middle for June 10 on the 10th.

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